“Stare Cards” for CS

I wish people would stop staring.

I designed some cards to give to people who stare at Knox.

It’s happening more and more frequently.  People can’t help themselves. Their eyes keep looking over at him.  They don’t say anything but their eyes ask the questions loud and clear.

“What’s wrong with that baby? Is he OK? He doesn’t look quite right.”

Many can’t contain their curiosity and ask the DREADED QUESTION.

” How old is he?”

Here we go again.

And when I tell them they don’t believe me because he looks so small.

Then their eyes start asking questions again.

“Fine,” I say to myself. “I’ll tell this one person.  I’ll go through it  one more time.”


It’s a strange thing having people stare at your child.  I’m not sure I’ll ever get used to it.

But I am going to give all of those questioning eyes something to read from now on.  I’m going to hand them a card.

It will answer all their questions, and hopefully, get them to stop staring.

I drew several different designs, trying to keep it simple.  I figured something hand-drawn would catch people’s attention.

At first, I wanted to make them the size of an ATC, but I couldn’t fit all the words on it.

I kept re-tracing it and making changes until I liked it.

Here’s the finished design. I copied several onto cardstock and then added some bright colors with highlighter pens.

And I know a certain big sister who is ready and willing to hand them out.


  1. Scarlett, do you know how powerful that would be…to give them a card? for them to connect a real, flesh and blood life with CS? This could be amazing. Motivated by powerful mother’s love. Beautiful!

    • bscarlettc

      @Noel–Thanks, Noel. I hope it’s a good thing. I’ve found myself getting really annoyed at explaining things to curious strangers lately, so I think this will help. I really appreciate your encouragement 🙂

  2. Heidi Bounds

    These are beautiful and great way to share information with those who do not know or understand. You are so creative

    • bscarlettc

      @Heidi–Thanks dear friend, I appreciate you stopping by! Come see us soon! 🙂

      @Aunt Melanie-Thank you Aunt Mely, I will have probably used them all by this time next week! 🙂

  3. Melanie Keel

    That’s a beautiful idea Scarlett! The cards are beautiful as well and says just what it needs to…Love you, Aunt Mel

  4. The image of the Mother butterfly and the baby really touches one’s heart~
    I can imagine; I have seen this! It wears on you…the cards are beautiful and awareness is how things happen~ xXx

  5. What a great idea! Would you like me to recreate the image digitally for you? Then you could run them off on a printer any size you want, and color them in. Other Moms could then use them to hand out as well (if you want them to use your design). No strings attached.

    • bscarlettc

      @Carmen-Hi! Thanks for stopping by. You read my mind! I’ve actually been meaning to scan it in and add it on the side of my blog for anyone who may want it, but I just haven’t had the chance. Did you mean scanning it in or did you mean some other way? I have a scanner but maybe that’s not the best way? Let me know ok? You are very kind to offer to do that, thank you so much. I will come visit your blog very soon. ~S

  6. Hi Scarlet,
    If you scan it into your computer and save it in a jpeg format, then that would definitely work as well! Plus you could then resize it if you wanted to. These would work well in a business card format if the writing doesn’t turn out too small. I guess you’d have to play with it to see.

    If it doesn’t turn out, let me know and I can do up a digital copy for you that you can then post on your blog. I give away free digital stamps on my blog -and this would be along the same lines; it would be a resizable png image.

    • bscarlettc

      @Carmen–ugh! I tried to resize to business card size and the writing was way too small, so I guess this particular image isn’t going to work in that size. Let me try a couple of other things, but if I can’t get it to work I will definitely be in touch–thanks again for your generous offer, I really really appreciate it. ~S

  7. Resizing it to a business card was just a suggestion. You would have to scan it as is, then save it as a jpeg (it may save as a jpeg by default), then once you’ve saved it, you should be able to resize it in Word. If you post it on your blog as a jpeg, people should be able to save it and resize it in their Word (or other) program. Sorry, I wasn’t very clear initially! 🙂

  8. @Carmen –I’ve been re-visiting this idea because we just got a scanner! I’m going to scan it in and make it available soon! Thanks again for this suggestion,I appreciate you stopping by!

  9. Val Marietti

    I love them. Please make them available to purchase for all cs parents!

  10. LOVE LOVE LOVE this idea – Just perfect, I know I would use these all the time, they are just FAB.. Well done Scarlett you are so talented <3

  11. Susan Maguire

    Most people are heart-felt and when they look they are trying to understand what this is because they are not familiar with cockane. I love your idea of the card given with a thank you and a smile. Is so much more relaxing for you, your child and the onlooker. Education. “Stop Staring” is angry and off-putting. I’m glad you went the softer more caring route. Your loving nature shines brightly in your art.

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